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13 months in...
Sep. 6th, 2019 10:27 amSo, it's been 13 months since my wife died.
I'm apparently not the most demonstrative of people - losing my wife was a shock and felt really bad, but it hasn't really dragged on. I partially chalk this up to my wife having been sick for so long in the hospital - I had to get used to living (and taking care of my daughter) without my wife long before she was going to die. This also happily has sheltered my daughter a little - by losing her mother a slice at a time, as it were, the final loss was very sad but... she's bounced back pretty well as well. Given that Tammy got sick when Rose was, what, 4? And then died when she was almost 7, I'm guessing that a majority of Rose's memories involve having a sick/missing mother. Sigh.
So now, I'm mostly... lonely. Not entirely alone, since I've got my daughter with me so much of the time, but still - a young daughter is not the same as an adult. Not sure what to do, really - I wasn't all that great at dating back when I was young, and now there's streaks of white in my beard.
One thing I'm doing - partially to help this, and partially because I'm the only parent left - is that I joined Weight Watchers at the beginning of the year, and have been sticking with it. So far, I've lost more than fifty pounds. I'd lost some before WW, which surprised me as I thought I'd been overeating.
I'm apparently not the most demonstrative of people - losing my wife was a shock and felt really bad, but it hasn't really dragged on. I partially chalk this up to my wife having been sick for so long in the hospital - I had to get used to living (and taking care of my daughter) without my wife long before she was going to die. This also happily has sheltered my daughter a little - by losing her mother a slice at a time, as it were, the final loss was very sad but... she's bounced back pretty well as well. Given that Tammy got sick when Rose was, what, 4? And then died when she was almost 7, I'm guessing that a majority of Rose's memories involve having a sick/missing mother. Sigh.
So now, I'm mostly... lonely. Not entirely alone, since I've got my daughter with me so much of the time, but still - a young daughter is not the same as an adult. Not sure what to do, really - I wasn't all that great at dating back when I was young, and now there's streaks of white in my beard.
One thing I'm doing - partially to help this, and partially because I'm the only parent left - is that I joined Weight Watchers at the beginning of the year, and have been sticking with it. So far, I've lost more than fifty pounds. I'd lost some before WW, which surprised me as I thought I'd been overeating.
